You must not waste time holding someone else accountable for your happiness.
The responsibility to feel better, be better, DO better, lies solely with you.
And in the moments of doubt, when you feel unworthy, don’t pass the blame.
It is YOU who is responsible for your life.
Some people give up because they're temporarily weak.
Some people give up because they don’t want to do the work they need to. Sometimes people just give up because they’re sad and they won’t ask the people that love them the most to help. Some people give up because it’s easy.
Fellow sufferers make unhappiness easier to bear because they attract it.
I understand. Misery loves company.
Some people will openly admit that they want things in your life to fail.
That they have been fantasizing about the very thought of you failing.
Some people will convince you of a love more genuine.
Those are not the people you want in your life.
Those are the people that are prepared to revel in your failure.
The people that get joy from watching the world crumble around you.
The people whose negativity breeds sabotage.
Some people will go to great lengths to deceive you. Yes, even you.
They will scheme to take things away you worked so hard for. They will lie and manipulate. They will cheat. They will blame. They will cast doubt on things that were good, and true, and pure. They will make you doubt everything including yourself.
And they will do it cleverly and in a way that seems so logical and rational.
And you will be pushed to the edge of despair. The loneliest place you’ve ever been. Wondering, why? And how?
Sometimes people change so much it is hard to recognize them.
Yet, even through the doubt and the fear – you’re still standing. Breathless at times, but standing. Trying desperately to recognize them. Loving them from afar because it’s all you know how to do, because letting go would be letting go of everything you believe in.
When you have received the fullness of love, it is hard to imagine a place without it. So you keep loving - because it is the only thing you know how to do.
And when all is said and done. When the party is over and the music has died down and we reach the end of our days, it is worth remembering;
There is no greater value in life than that of fully giving and receiving love. The legacy of love continues. Love continues, even in unhappiness.
My love continues and I am grateful for it because it's with me in all that I do. It’s a generous love with nothing held back. It’s complicated and intricate and exclusive. It's not dishonest. It's not unjustified. It's not crazy. It's not irrational. It's not shameful. It's not hopeless and it doesn't make me weak. It's unfaltering and it's broken. And it's with you. From afar.
Mother, creative strategist and health & happiness advocate. These are my personal ramblings..